27F, how can you get over this feeling of being cursed in love?

I sound so dismal however I really feel my lack of outcomes are merely unhealthy luck. Lots of people have used the relationship apps and had success, I’ve been on and off for a couple of years. I’m on the level the place I don’t have the drive to actively be on them, I reply to msgs now as soon as a day or each different day. I don’t need to hear it’s as a result of I’m shy or my requirements are too excessive, I’ve seen girls in my identical subject (appears/schooling clever) in a position to entice the sort of man I’d like so if they will I ought to be capable to additionally. I get matches however the ones I like don’t like me again or those that need me I don’t need again. I fear generally I’ll be 40 and remorse all these years I didn’t reside it up and was so delinquent. I’m nearly 30 and I fear it’s solely going to go downhill as I age, bodily and guys desire youthful lady. Possibly it may very well be my lack of intercourse drive contributing to being single? Trustworthy and critical solutions solely please